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Lou

I believe that to live a good life, a person should learn to do something of value, very well, then serve others with that knowledge. As an Emotions Advisor, Educator, Speaker, Author, and founder of Our Emotional Life I dedicate my life to the service and well-being of others.

Like most of us, I grew up without understanding where emotions come from or how to regulate and control them. I received the standard responses in regards to my emotions like, it will pass, don't worry about it, it will be ok, or my favorite, what doesn't kill you makes you stronger. Well, I learned that what doesn't kill you doesn't always make you stronger. Sometimes the pain didn't pass. Sometimes painful emotions create lasting emotional consequences. Like the rest of us, I tucked away my feelings because that's what I thought I was supposed to do. No one told me otherwise. Emotions weren't discussed.

 

Noticing a lack of substantive programs that focused on the key factors related to a positive and productive emotional life, and how many people lacked knowledge of their emotions, how they develop, and how to control and improve them, I was motivated to start Our Emotional Life, a business that allows people to understand and improve their emotional life. There should be a resource for people seeking to improve emotional control and reduce stress, over worry anxiety, and depression. 

Using the current neuroscience research I provide access to a credible source of knowledge and practice methodology for the understanding and development of our emotional life, to learn how our brain builds itself in early childhood influences our emotional temperament and personality.

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I am eager to support people committed to improving their emotional life. My accomplishments reflect a sincere desire to learn, teach, and develop worthwhile programs for the betterment of our emotional lives.     
 

In my spare time I am an artist, athlete, and an avid martial artist with black belts in various styles, I love to eat fresh food and cook often. I am passionate about teaching, driven to learn, and excited about other people’s success. Keep Learning!

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Our emotions can guide us and help us make good decisions, or our emotions can rule us and make our lives miserable. Our Emotional Life has programs designed to help us improve our emotional control through acceptance, awareness, knowledge, and practice.

 
I am is a graduate of Adelphi University & NYU Post Graduate Medical School, a former NYU Post Graduate Medical School Instructor. I was appointed Chairman and lead instructor for a federally granted program at the Educational Opportunities Commission, Bronx, N.Y. I also developed and facilitated after school and summer programs for youth. I am an accomplished teacher with significant experience in developing and implementing educational programs.

               What is coaching?

Coaching is simple in concept. First, we determine what you want to accomplish; what your goals are. Second, we discover what's keeping you from reaching those goals. Inevitably, you realize that it's you, you're the one keeping yourself from reaching your goals, or this should be your conclusion. Although circumstances may have contributed to your present state of mind, it's your responsibility to improve your life. As a coach, I will help you discover what it is about you that is blocking your forward progress and what's keeping you from reaching your goals. It could be the need to think differently; approach a situation from a new perspective. Has stress, anxiety, and depression seized your life? If so, we need to find the cause, so you can stop the over-thinking and out-of-control emotions and move forward with your life. Is there a lack of confidence or self-esteem?

Your thoughts, feelings, and perceptions create your life. Therefore, your inner narrative needs to be supportive and direct you towards your goals, not fighting or criticizing you and creating inner turmoil.

​You need to "see yourself more clearly." Simpler said than done. Most of us have a somewhat blurry vision of ourselves and often have assumptions about ourselves that need to be questioned and confirmed. Being self-aware or clearly seeing ourselves is an essential ability that allows us to be effective in all aspects of our lives. In addition, people are more willing to relate to someone with a clear and accurate view of themselves.

We define who you are, your strengths and weakness, how you deal with your emotional triggers, and how you feel and think about yourself, other people, and the world around you. We learn where your thoughts and emotions come from, increase awareness of your thoughts, feelings, and perceptions of self; what your inner dialog is saying about you, other people, and the world around you.

As your coach, I will observe, discuss and share how you see yourself, how other people see you, and your perception of how others see you. This understanding allows you to determine your effect on others and understand outcomes from your interactions, bringing to light your own and other people's perceptions of your strengths and weaknesses, allowing you to see yourself more clearly, and develop accordingly.

​It is important to follow a specific process required for change and improvement to move forward in your life and live the life you deserve. I can help you to recognize what needs improving, leverage your strengths, and improve your weaknesses. Please schedule a consultation to discuss your goals and determine if we can work together to get from where you are to where you want to be.

 
Our Emotional Life

Our Emotional Life

While many books talk about understanding and controlling one’s emotions, very few are honest about how difficult it is to accomplish. Our Emotional Life pries open the truth about our emotions, delving deep into what makes our emotions tick at the conscious and unconscious levels.