About Our Emotional Life

Lou developed Our Emotional Life so that people could have a credible source of information about where our emotions come from, how they affect our lives, how we can become more aware of our emotions and increase control of our emotions. 

What We Do​
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At our emotional life, we’re concerned with your agenda, and your emotional life,  about what you want to achieve in your life. We work hard to develop a strong understanding of your unique emotional goals. Then we set up our program outcomes and goals according to what you, as an individual, want to accomplish. Now please, understand, This is not Hollywood, we are not here to entertain you with flashy graphics and fireworks. The fireworks come when you accomplish your goal. Our emotional life has developed a strong program based on neuroscience, years of research, and experience and provides simple progressive methods for improving our emotional life. People spend years learning and practicing improving their skills as athletes, or musicians, or skills or in a particular profession or trade. So why do some of us think we can improve our emotional control in a few weeks.  We have been practicing to be who we are for many years. We can’t change our emotional habits in a few weeks. 


At Our Emotional Life, we will not contribute to the short-term, or quick fix results, mentality, which is often common in programs or courses. We won’t mislead you or con you with false promises. Put in the work and get results. We expect months of significant effort.  We schedule weekly discussions, in person, online, or on the phone, depending on the arrangement agreed upon. First, you’ll view the online preliminary course for our emotional life.  Then You’ll receive a workbook, and each week various information will be reviewed and discussed. We offer practical and progressive methods for increasing your emotional awareness, understanding where your emotions come from, how emotions affect your life, and eventually new ways of expressing your emotions.


Before you agree to participate in the course, we’ll have a discussion to learn about each other. Once you commit to the course, we will do information gathering asking questions to get a better understanding of the emotional areas you want to review and improve. We work on all of you, not half.  It would be foolish to separate the parts we don’t like, we need to acknowledge our strengths and weaknesses as part of our whole person. To become more aware of your emotions, we’ll discuss various topics and ask some difficult questions to move into a transformative level of emotional awareness. It’s only at a higher level of emotional awareness that we can improve. The process is challenging and sometimes uncomfortable, After all, It’s the truth you want. The goal is to get to where your emotions are in balance and where thoughts and behaviors support a positive, productive lifestyle.  We track progress towards your emotional goals, so we can see what areas are improving and what areas need more work. It’s not about rating your progress, or giving you a grade… There is no judgment.  We all grow at our own rate, but we do need to review progress. You may say, why can't I do this myself?  Well, I say this. No matter who we are, at times we all need help. Every person should take a course in themselves. Most people make excuses and live in denial about their emotional life. Getting help requires not only gaining knowledge and skill, but also holding ourselves accountable. Accountability means facing and accepting our strengths and weaknesses with equal enthusiasm. It means, not deterring from the path, not becoming distracted, staying focused and committed. I will help you with accountability, I will be tough, I will push you and help motivate you because you want the truth about your emotions and how they affect your life. That’s why you’re here. Hard emotional work isn’t for everyone. Facing our shadow side isn’t for everyone. This course isn’t for everyone, we offer significant Knowledge, and experience., we will not use shortcuts or gimmicks. The goal is for you will have more emotional balance and control, less stress, less worry, reduce bad habits and impulsive behaviors, and, reduce anxiety and depression. Take a step towards greater emotional control and balance, allow your emotions to be more the tools that they are meant to be. If you’re interested, schedule a simple 45-min call.     

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Course Objectives

1. Learn how our brain's architecture builds itself in early childhood and youth creating neural connections to key areas of the brain responsible for determining our ability to focus, learn, deal with stress, develop meaningful relationships, have confidence, resist impulses, control emotions, and set and reach goals.


2. Learn how stress and negative early childhood experiences block neural connections between key areas of the brain that leads to problems learning, coping, and developing confidence and increases impulsiveness anxiety and depression, and decreased emotional control.


3. Learn about three specific areas of our brain:

  • The reptilian brain contributes to the control of the body's vital functions such as heart rate, breathing, body temperature, and balance, and primitive drives related to thirst, hunger, sexuality, and territoriality, as well as habits and procedural memory.  

  • The Limbic Region records memories of behaviors and if they produced agreeable or disagreeable experiences. Often called the emotional brain because it stores how we feel about our experiences.  This area of the brain contributes to value judgments that exert strong influences on our behaviors.

  • Pre Frontal Cortex is responsible for planning complex cognitive behavior, personality expression, decision making, and moderating social behavior. This area of the brain helps regulate and coordinate thoughts and actions in accordance with internal goals. The Prefrontal cortex is responsible for executive function such as short-term memory, impulse control, emotional control, rational thinking, self-regulation, goal setting, all coordinated to lead to socially acceptable outcomes and personal goals.

4. Learn about how stress in as little as 20 days can change our brains architecture in ways that create irrational thinking, impulsive behaviors, and a decrease in emotional control


5. We will learn how and why we get stuck in negative and self-defeating emotions and behaviors based on negative emotional memories and experiences.


6. We will discuss our emotions and personalities, the benefits and deficits of anger fear sadness and happiness


7. Learn how to recognize emotions gone astray irrational thinking and counter-productive behaviors.


8. We will look at how we respond to our emotional triggers, negative memories, and irrational beliefs.


9. Learn to develop a menu of alternative choices for how we react to emotional stimulus and decrease stress anxiety depression and gain greater control over our emotional life.


10. Learn to recognize stress early and implement strategies to prevent stress from becoming excessive.