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How To Lower Stress

Learn How To Reduce  Stress

Stress Coaching

Are you looking to learn how to reduce stress? Stress is a natural part of our lives. But too many of us have too much stress, chronic or toxic stress. We need to learn how to lower stress; learn the cause of our stress, and live the life we deserve. 


Stress can become unmanageable and create all sorts of problems in our life and the lives of those around us. So why are we stressed, feel like we're going to explode, can't stop feeling worried and anxious all the time, doubt ourselves, have no confidence, feel stuck and frustrated? Stress alters our ability to perceive reality, to be clear-minded, and rational. We all have felt the effects of stress, fatigue, frustration, and irritability. In as little as twenty days, stress begins to alter our brain in ways that create a decrease in rational thinking, impulse control, and a decreased ability to control our emotionsExcessive stress leads to anxiety, depression, and panic. We need to learn how to reduce stress before it takes control of our lives.


Learning where your stress comes from and how to get control over your emotions and thoughts can prevent your stress from getting worse. If you would like, please schedule a consultation. We will discuss your circumstances, and develop a plan for getting your stress under control.


             Balance Your Emotions

When you have unbalanced emotions, stress is the culprit; excessive stress causes changes in your brain that allow anxiety and depression to develop. So, the answer to reducing anxiety and depression comes from asking what's causing you to be stressed, and then learn how to reduce stress.

Stress can come from many aspects of your life. Work, relationships, finances, and health contribute to stress levels. However, we don't often realize the stress inside us from our inner beliefs about ourselves and the world around us. How you deal with life's everyday stressors has to do with your inner beliefs that can sabotage your life, creating a negative self-image or view of the world around you. These learned limiting beliefs keep you in the pattern of thinking, feeling, and acting, making it difficult to reduce stress and maintain your anxiety and depression. So part of lowering your stress, anxiety, and depression is to become aware of why you think, feel and behave the way you do and their consequences.

To balance your emotions, you need to use a specific process that eliminates the over-worry, over-thinking, negative feelings, and behaviors. The process requires a serious commitment from you to put in the work.  Without a serious commitment, nothing will change. Your anxiety and depression took a long time to develop and will take significant time to regain your emotional balance. With depression, this can be difficult, being that depression has a lot to do with avoidance, yet this is something that only you can do. Once you have committed to the process, we discover what makes to tick, your strengths, weaknesses, your emotional triggers, and the things that set you off. Then, we ask a bunch of questions to get a picture of your life and your story.  Progressively, we uncover where your stress comes from and why you're anxious or depressed, which help us learn how to lower stress.

We learn how you feel about yourself and the world around you and uncover any deep-rooted feelings and beliefs that may cause self-doubt, a lack of confidence, or negative memories that keep you stuck in limiting beliefs about yourself or the world around you. Over time, you learn to think differently and see things differently. You resolve and let go of old pains. Eventually, your stress levels will decrease, allowing your brain to regain its ability to think rationally, stop overthinking, reduce the constant sad or negative thinking, and begin to live your life. 

 You learn to use progressive changes in how you think and feel behavior, moving towards a more balanced non-over reactive but effective response that establishes a calm mental and emotional state. 

Once you have committed to getting help, we will discuss the process in greater detail. Take a breath. Keep learning. 


                      Design Your Life

Excessive stress can steal our life through time lost and decreased quality of life. I can help you learn how to reduce stress, and bring more joy and productivity into your life.

You will become conscious of what you take into your mind, filter your thoughts and decide what thoughts are supportive.  You’ll learn to direct and project your thoughts in a more productive manner, to control your emotions, and not over react mentally and emotionally. Also, we will discuss how to create an environment that programs your mind with positive, and supportive people, language, emotions and thoughts helping you learn how to reduce stress. Practicing certain skills over and over causes your brain to override the old programming, allowing you to rewrite your brain's software, and retrain and reprogram your brain. Take a course in yourself. Learn to see yourself more clearly. 

If you are committed to getting help, please schedule a consultation, and we can discuss your emotional goals and form a plan for getting your life on track. Learn how to reduce stress, anxiety and depression. You deserve to live better. Keep learning.

                          Please schedule a consultation below. Thank You

Effects of Chronic or Toxic Stress:


  • Irritable

  • Increased chance of borderline personality disorders

  • Restlessness

  • Increase in bad habits Overeating, obsessive-compulsive behaviors

  • Decreased social and relationship skills

  • Increased risk for drug and alcohol abuse

  • Greater chance of self-harm, or suicide

Symptoms of anxiety can vary and might include:

  • Feelings of panic, fear, and uneasiness

  • Uncontrollable, obsessive thoughts or worries

  • Repeated thoughts or flashbacks of traumatic experiences

  • Nightmares or problems sleeping

  • An inability to be still and calm

  • Nausea

  • Muscle tension

  • Dizziness

  • Ritualistic behaviors, such as repeated handwashing

  • Cold or sweaty hands and/or feet

  • Shortness of breath

  • Palpitations

  • Dry mouth

  • Numbness or tingling in the hands or feet

​Different Types of Anxiety:

  • Feelings of excessive worry or stress, leading to a perception of threat even when none is present.

  • Panic disorders, such as panic attacks, which are characterized by sudden feelings of panic and fear with no discernible warning or rational source.

  • Obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD) is rooted by feelings of fear or anxiety which compel a sufferer to perform certain ritualized actions.

  • Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) may result in severe feelings of panic or fear in people who have experienced something traumatic in their past.

  • Social anxiety disorder, also known as social phobia, can manifest as fear of being judged or feeling embarrassed; in any case, the source of anxiety remains any or all social situations.

  • Specific phobias are fears that are out of proportion to the source of threat, and can be associated with virtually any source or stimulus.

Signs of Depression:

  • Inactivity: The primary feature of a major depressive episode is at least two or more weeks spent in depression, with a lack of pleasure taken in any activities. If you are experiencing this symptom, get off the couch and out of the house. Go for a walk. Moderate exercise (for example, walking 20-40 minutes three times per week) is effective in improving long-term outcomes for people who are depressed

  • Poor sleep habits: Sleep disturbance is a symptom of and a contributor to depression. It’s important to work hard to develop good sleep habits. Prepare for sleep by turning off the television and electronics. Breathe, stretch, or meditate to prepare for sleep.

  • Social isolation: When life is overwhelming, we can turn inward and get depressed. Meaningful social support is exactly what we need in this situation. We need to learn to use the people around us for support. Social support acts to buffer against our vulnerabilities and depression. We need to spend time with friends and family.

  • Poor diet: Depressed people tend to eat poorly. Processed foods, sugar, and alcohol correlate with increased rates of depression and anxiety. It's important to eat better, decrease sugars and bad carbs, and decrease alcohol. Learn to eat more vegetables and fruits.

  • Rumination:  Depressed people tend to ruminate. Rumination is dwelling on the same negative thought patterns over and over. We compulsively dwell on and magnifying negative thoughts of loss, failure, and other self-defeating thoughts.

  • Avoidance: We need to learn to not avoid situations because we feel tired or anxious.  We need to face our fears. Doing so is likely to be rewarding and worthwhile.


  • Headaches

  • Poor sleep

  • Fatigue

  • Rapid weight gain, obesity

  • High blood pressure

  • Lowered immune function

  • Slow wound healing

  • Inflammation

  • Chronic pain

  • Increased risk of heart disease

  • Hypertension

  • Muscle tension and weakness

  • Blood sugar imbalances diabetes

  • Arthritis


  • Over worrying

  • Foggy brained

  • Irrational decisions

  • Difficulty concentrating

  • Difficulty making decisions

  • Predicts poor academic achievement

  • Nightmare

  • Anxiety

  • Depression



  • Increased fear,  sadness or anger

  • Frustration

  • Decreased emotional control

  • Increased negative emotion